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27.2 weeks/days


Getting to the third trimester was something I was kind of really scared of. To be honest I still am.

Considering my first pregnancy, and considering this pregnancy is unfolding much like the first, I have to say I’m nervous. You see my first pregnancy was hard through out, as was this one, especially having had a miscarriage right before finding out about this baby. Basically, I’ve nearly pregnant for a year??? With about a months break in between, so I’m excited to finally have a baby in my arms, which is why the last couple months are going to be exciting. But the physical side of pregnancy has always been a little too much for me.

Excuse my rambles. Typically if this pregnancy is anything like my very first, the last trimester is going to be a ton of bricks. Add a 3.5 year old to the mix, which is something I didn’t have last time, and we open up a new can of worms. I already am expieriencing the immense pelvic pain, the early Braxton hicks contractions, and the nausea. Let me tell you something walking with a baby sitting right on your hips 24/7 is really no easy feat. Also breathing! Can i just please get a little bit of air??? I’m not complaining though, being pregnant is a beautiful thing, a very physically, emotionally demanding thing, but beautiful nonetheless. 

I cant wait for our newest little girl to come join us. 

One thing I think I can wait for is the glucose test I have next week. That’s the worst part of it all. Last time I went with orange and that taste made me gag… maybe I’ll try fruit punch this time around, anyone else hated the glucose test? Or am I just a baby? 

My husband and I also have a tour of the hospital next week, that’s going to be fun I think. Also I’m in the midst of packing and getting our  hospital bags ready, would anyone want to see a post about that when I have it all sorted out?  I’ll probably do a post about it. 

Anyway, hope you all are having a great day! 

Xo

D

lifestyle · motherhood

Daily bumps…


Ahh sundays….

They’ve always been my least favorite day of the week ever since I could remember. I’m not exactly sure why, because I usually do the same things on the daily. I remember I hated sundays back in my school days because… Sunday meant Monday and Monday meant school,  but as adult I have no reason to really hate sundays.

Maybe it’s just because I feel like Sunday has a connotation of being a lazy day… 

today, I needed a little pick me up, the odd thing is, for someone who hated ice coffees of any kind before this pregnancy all I can drink these days coffee wise is iced coffees… it’s so strange and watered down. See what I mean about sundays? I’m over here blogging about ice coffees. Also the baby bump just keeps growing, and I’m convinced this little girl never sleeps while in my stomach. Constant kicks, moves, yawns, whatever all day. It’s nice though.

Anyway, today, I think I’ll start a plan for next week. Plan out what we need to do, etc. I’ll probably also make my way to the park with the baby and the puppy and then perhaps finish my never ending pile of laundry that I started earlier.

Have a good Sunday.

Xo

D

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The “perfect” bump…


21 weeks pregnant this week. And I have to admit watching my body change so drastically this time around is harder than I thought it would be.

During my first pregnancy I didn’t start showing at all until around 25 weeks, which I know might not seem like such a difference… but it’s weird. Knowing your body can grow and change is so… terrifying in the best way.

The way I try to stay positive about the weight gain and aches is I try to remember why it’s happening. There’s a healthy, growing little human in there. The little baby rarely lets me forget they’re in there. S/he spends most of its days kicking any chance it gets.

Today is weird day. I just had to share some of my feelings and thoughts somewhere.

Hope you all have a great day.

Xo

D

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I am not a burden: top 3 things I realized when I became a SAHM


From the second I turned 16, I went straight to the DMV, got my drivers license and set up my first job interview. I remember how nervous I was as I set there in the cozy Starbucks that was a few miles from my house, nervous because there was nothing I wanted more than to land my first job and on top of that have my first job be as a Starbucks barista. 

I practically lived in Starbucks at the time and it only made sense to start there. I remember the excitement, happiness I felt when i got that call back about how I’d gotten that job. From that point on, I juggled school(high school, cosmetology school, college), being a mom when Anberlin was born, and working. I always knew what it meant to work hard and it really taught me a lot about being an adult and really appreciating the value of a dollar as well as a good idea of how to budget when it came to the whole mom thing.

The idea of being a stay at home mom, never crossed my mind. Maybe because my mom always had a job, she never stayed at home with me, only in the summer and holidays because she was on a school schedule. So I never saw what life as a stay at home mom was like. I was so used to the idea of working weird hours, going to school and being a mom when I was done doing those things and of course any minute in between. I was used to always having a place to be, something to do, and just you know not “being home” all the time. 

But rewind to July of 2016, when my husband actually encouraged the idea of me staying home with Anberlin and nurturing my pregnancy so it would go as smooth as possible. At first I was completely against it, but after all I went through with being pregnant(also I couldn’t even imagine how lousy I’d be as a server as the pregnancy went on), our child rarely seeing her parents because we both worked ridiculous hours, I was so appreciative that he would allow me to do what I would learn was the most important job I’d ever have. Being a stay at home mom


But it took a while for me to see it that way. I felt as though my family, his family, our friends, outsiders looking in would see me as lazy. A burden. A women living off of her husband and his hard earned money. It took a while to get past feeling that way. But there were a few things I had to keep reminding myself and keep in my day to day, so I thought it was a relatable topic and therefore I wanted to share it with you guys.


1.) I am not lazy/a burden: being a stay at home mom is not as easy as it sounds. You DONT get to stay home and sit on the couch, wait for your partner to come home, and eat bon bons all day. it’s nowhere near as easy as some people want to make it seem. Or how some people might want to play it out for others. Unless you’ve done it you might not realize how much a stay at home mother does. I clean everyday, because life with a toddler, a husband, a dog, means that my house’s cleanliness isn’t going to last the 24 hours of the day. Laundry multiplies literally on the daily. Like how did we wear 10 outfits in one day? Who knows but we did. Point is: being a stay at home mom means you’re doing things all day. Important vital things to make sure life in general goes as smoothly, cleanly, and just as pleasant as possible. My job as a stay at home mom has made me realize it’s harder than any other job I’ve had in the past. At the end of the day when I’m tired I realize it’s not because I’m lazy, it’s because I’ve never done thing much before.


2.) i never realized how much I missed out on my child’s life until we spent everyday together. Really though, I see her doing so many new things everyday. Her appearance even changes daily. When my mind was clouded with work, school and everything else I never noticed all the new little changes that were happening with our little girl. I now have privilege to see all her little quirks, all the new inches of hair growing out of her head, all the things she likes and becomes obsessed with. It sounds silly, but I seriously never realized how much I missed while I was gone. This is one thing I’ll always cherish with all my children for as long as I’m able to spend this time with them. I couldn’t thank my husband enough for allowing me to have this. 

3.) Your house is not a Pinterest house. You’re not an instagram chef and the food you cook won’t always be picturesque. Stop trying to make everything visually pleasing! This was something I had to come to terms with. The reality is, no matter how many times I clean, cook with Pinterest recipes and try to diy myself into a beautiful home: it’s most likely not going to turn out as appealing as it looked in the Pinterest post. There will always a legit out of place in the middle of the hall. My kale salad will probably be served on a paper plate. The art on my walls will probably just be band posters because the wooden shelving system diy didn’t work out as well as I though. And you know what? That’s ok. It’s all ok. You have to realize life isn’t a Pinterest board. This is real life. Real people live in my house. Real life looks real and lived in, not perfect and color coordinated. That’s a big one I had to realize. 

MY top 5 tips for staying sane while being a SAHM:

  1. Go out! The words stay at home might be in the job title but you don’t need to stay at home 24/7. You’d go nuts! personally I like to window shop, take a trip to target you don’t need to buy anything and it’s always a fun outing. Go to the park with the kids and the pets(if you have some). My daughter loves the park and I’m learning to love it too. Just get out and do something fun for all of you guys.
  2. Do some arts and crafts! Not everyone feels they’re crafty, but you don’t need to be: just have fun with it. Kids love doing crafts that’s something I learned, and I also learned despite my love for painting sometimes crafting can be just as fun as painting so matter how trivial the craft my seem.
  3. Don’t try to make a daily routine. I tried. I nearly lost my mind. Routines are great, but sometimes they’re overwhelming and you get down on yourself if you don’t accomplish the tasks you set out to do on that day at that exact time. We’re human. Sometimes routines work and other times they don’t. Don’t stress. Finish it when you can.
  4. Some days it’s okay to take a day off. Especially if you’ve been wrangling a toddler who has energy for days and your 5 months pregnant without a decent nights sleep in weeks because the other baby likes to practice karate in your stomach from midnight to 6 am.point being: one day of the week of just relaxing and hanging out with the kids not worrying about house work is ok. You’ll be fine. 
  5. And lastly: just stay positive. Sometimes being a stay at home mom gives you a lot of time to yourself to think. Think negatively. And that can cause major stress and just overall bad feelings for everyone. Stay positive mom! You got this. You’re doing an awesome job!